Just Chillin'

On a windy day in Durban....

Head Wraps

If there is one fashion item I cannot do without - its headwraps! They are most helpful on bad hair days. And there are so many different ways you can wear them, depending on your style. You can also mix and match different prints between your headwrap and your outfit. You can wear them with almost anything, from jeans to dresses and skirts.Make it look casual or classy just have fun with it! Here are some of the different styles you can try;

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Solange Knowles

Eva Marcille

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Style Crush - Jessie J

I just love this girl, OMW her voice! No wonder they call her the British Pink. She is such a performer and I totally love all her music videos. Did I mention her crazy outfits, she hardly wears simple even when she does she still looks like the fun crazy cool person she is. I love her short blond hair too, it suits her perfectly and she is so brave for cutting it so short...it just shows how unique a person she is.

                               

 

                            

Check out some of her best songs (my favourites of course) like; 'Wild' (ft Big Sean and Dizzee Rascal) , 'Do It Like A Dude', 'Nobody's Perfect' and 'Thunder' on YouTube

*none of the pictures are mine

Braai Day

Went for a braai at my cousins place the other weekend. It was a hot but very chilled day. I  thought this outfit would be apropriate ;)

Your 20s

So I was browsing the net the other day and came across this, though I should share! I know its long , but please do read.

 

Your 20s compose undoubtedly the most pivotal time in your life. While there are plenty of temptations and distractions, the decisions you make here are truly what dictate your future, as the weak fail and only the strong survive.While many think they have all the answers and the keys to success, we have seen those people make the same pitfalls too many times before.This is the time for you to hustle, scrap and fight for the life that you want for yourself. You manifest your own destiny during these crucial years.

These are the 20 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make In Your 20s.

20. Working for money, not for building your dreams

Never do anything just because it’s convenient for you. Look to challenge yourself and build your own dream instead of building someone else’s. Even if it doesn’t exactly make sense now, create something with great value so you can cash out big.Always look to the future and never for immediate compensation.

19. Thinking that this is the right time to fall in love

While all of your friends might be doing it, don’t fall into the trap of a relationship. Sure it seems like the right thing to do, but your 20s are entirely too crucial for your personal growth for you to be focusing on fulfilling the wishes of another individual.Get out there, meet new people, test the limits and have fun. It will take you to the places you’ve only dreamed of going.

18. Trying to act like the man rather than learning how to become one

Instead of going overboard on the Gucci monogram and bottles in the club, as if you just signed to Rocnation, spend that time focusing on your career. Every second counts and if more time is spent pretending to be the person you want to be instead of becoming that man, then you’ll sink in quick sand without even knowing it.

A real man is willing to make sacrifices. If you aren’t down to put in the work, then please don’t act like you are. You can enjoy the success when you actually attain it.

17. Making friends instead of earning trust

The in-crowd may be tempting, but you’ll probably fall victim to surrounding yourself with social climbers. We know you feel entitled to celebrate, but please relax. It’s never attractive when you act as though this is the last time you’ll ever see this in life.Make connections with people based on trial and error, not presuppositions and drunk ranting about what they can do for your business.

16. Not caring because you only live once — that’s for fools

We all are guilty of irrational decision-making in our 20s. Fast people and fast times with money in your pocket always lead to over-extending yourself.A life of partying, heavy drugs and pretty much having that YOLO attitude will leave you flat on your ass. Get focused and lock into what you’re supposed to be doing. If you don’t know what that is, then you better figure it out ASAP.

15. Making all your wants, needs

Rich men and cheap thrills coupled with expensive heels should not be on the list of your needs. Setting the foundation for your business and team is far more important than updating your wardrobe and chasing sex.Distinguish between what you want and what you actually need. Make sure your priorities are in tact or you will lose your track.

14. Forgetting that family comes first

Those who supported you before anything deserve to be taken care of when you reach your success. If you aren’t doing this for the ones you love, then you’re not doing it right. Family comes first, no matter what happens. If you work for whom you love instead of just yourself, you will get far.

13. Blaming anyone else but yourself for anything in life

Hold yourself accountable for everything. At the end of the day, all you have in the world is yourself — so go hard. Don’t look to anyone for answers and instead of making problems, create solutions. Whether it was that job you wanted, the funding you needed or the love you think you can’t live without, there is no one that can be held accountable in this universe except for you.

12. Getting comfortable like you actually deserve down time

Unless you’re chilling with Victoria’s Secret models in Monaco this weekend, you shouldn’t even be thinking about taking a break anytime soon. You need a vacation?What have you accomplished? Mark Cuban spent seven years building out his first business before he even took a break. Don’t get lazy now.

11. Sticking with jobs that didn’t teach you anything

A bad job is like an unhealthy relationship. Truthfully, the only reason you’re there is because it is the safest and easiest thing you know.Any job or relationship that allows for you to get comfortable should be avoided at all costs. The last scenario you could ever want is becoming like the rest of those miserable 40-somethings faced with weekends of minivans and soccer practice.

10. Following the crowd instead of forging against it

You can be aware of the trends, but never follow them. If all your time is spent trying to adjust to your surroundings, you’ll get lost in the crowd all the more easily.Success and greatness are constructed by trendsetters themselves, not those who latched on to what’s currently trending. Temptation to be influenced by those who you aspire to be like is easy, but no one finds his or her calling while following in the footsteps of another.

9. Failing to energize those around you

Although you may sometimes think there is a lack of talent in your networks — this is never the case. It is your sole responsibility to inspire, encourage and drive those around you to succeed. Failing to do so only confirms that you fall victim to that which you accuse others of. Change and greatness can be sparked everywhere, but bring it upon yourself to trigger it.

8. Thinking you need to stop learning and growing

You have more zeros at the end of your bank statement and stamps in your passport than you had ever imagined. Don’t consider this your victory lap, but rather as a taste of greatness. Do you live to enjoy the moments you dreamed of or a lifetime of unimaginable success?The common misconception that once things are in your favor, you no longer have to put in the 3:00AM work hours is a dangerous problem. The fewer nights that you’re willing to put in the work, the fewer opportunities you will have to celebrate your achievements in the future.

7. Thinking that anyone will ever pay you back

Your 20s will be accompanied with a slew of poor investments by both you and those around you. Whether rich or poor, there will always be someone in your circle that will need a helping hand. If you ever think you’re going to see that money again, you’re sorely mistaken.Of course miracles do happen, but the probabilities that you’ve essentially given the money away are far too high.

6. Investing in relationships with the wrong values

Your love life is an investment — and the smarter the deals you execute, the savvier of an investor you become. Instead of navigating through an ambiguous investment in which you shower your lover with cash and prizes for existing, make sure he or she will demonstrate positive returns. Your love life should have a solid ROI.

5. Holding on to friends that waste your time and add no value to your life

You’ll be sucked down into the abyss right with them if you don’t cut the fat of the group. Family and friends could have been great to you as a child, but if they no longer hold the value and inspiration that is needed for you to thrive in life, then cut them loose.

The only individuals you should be surrounding yourself with are those that challenge your ideas and motivate you to find the next solution to your problems. No, not the pessimistic assh*les who shoot down your ideas with their negativity, but rather the ones who genuinely want to see you succeed no matter what you do in life.

4. Forgetting about the piggy bank and spending every cent you have

If our check is for R100, then we’re most likely spending R300. Between credit cards, school loans and every other avenue for attaining quick money, our need for immediate gratification is worse than ever.

The truth is it’s about making more money, not saving it. But at the same time, if you have no means for expanding your revenue channels, then you must be able to save a few Rands here and there.

3. Not wrapping it before tapping it

If you don’t want to have a child then you better limit your excuses. As vulgar as it may sound, sometimes there are only a few options in life, so you must avoid all potential margins of error.
The road to success is not paved with having responsibilities of children. This is a somewhat lonely journey that you must take by yourself and those you love will be able to celebrate with you after.

2. Dating unstable people with mommy and daddy issues

We need to control the invincibility we all feel when it comes to both men and women. Whether she’s a stripper or he’s a frat bro, we feel the need to be the knight in shining armor for our lovers.
As chivalrous as this may seem, we hate to break it to you, but you will never be able to change anyone. By setting yourself up for a losing battle, you’ve only ensured your misery for the next few months. She’s clingy for a reason, don’t be her Dr. Phil. And if he doesn’t have ambition now, he never will.

1. Forgetting that karma is a huge b*tch

Whether it’s burning bridges with people you loved, stealing your friend’s girlfriend/boyfriend or plotting against an ex-partner, we must always remember that karma is the biggest b*tch we’ve ever met.There is nothing more true than the fact that whatever goes around comes around, and you are not immune to the cosmic forces that be. We’re not asking you to go on your Mother Teresa pilgrimage, but don’t be surprised when reality catches back up with you and brings you to your knees. Be a good person. You’ll get further in life.

Personal Style of Aphiwe

                                              Here are some of her campus looks. Always fun and girly! Love her look!

Crop top

Black and white print pants

                                                                         Polka Dot

Stripes

Style Crush - Solange

As a black woman Solange Knowles is quite an inspiration. Shes gorgeous and she owns it what I love the most about her is that she's a trend setter.

From short hair to her curly fro ,she always looks dazzling. Her outfits are stunning and absolutely look great on her.I totally run out of words to describe this girl. These pics speak for themselves!

My personal favourite.

She works prints like no other!

I do not own any of the pictures in this post.

Change S.A.

A lot as been on my mind lately. One of the things tough has  got to be politics. Iv grown t love politics, as a field of study of course, I wouldn't dream about being the next "Number One" that's just not me. Politics is very complex and can be understood from various dimensions . How most people understand politics is usually based on the crap politicians feed us. Yes crap! I mean what do you know about leading a country when all you have is experience in some kind of war and absolutely no formal education whats so ever. How many of these politicians actually have degrees?

Yes I'm a "90s chick", but hey I do know my country's  history and I do understand what politics is all about. So no, none of my assumptions are based on ignorance. I mean how many politicians have been charged with corruption? Do they have more rights than normal people? Somebody enlighten me please , maybe I'm missing something.

I totally dig my country. Its just our government mara! We seriously need change. So i'm encouraging all young people to make informed decisions on the party they vote for. Do research on what its for, the policies it aims at implementing and everything else that it's against, don't just vote based on what the party leaders tell you. We are a young and more educated generation,let's not waste all that ! ...Vote!!!

(If not registered I learned from my sources that you can still vote. Go to nearest IEC offices if not you can still vote provincially but not for your municipality)

sxp.hubpages.com click on link to check SXP's views on our president.

Personal Style of Cebo



Cebo is a student at Howard College (UKZN) , she majors in legal studies and political science. What I like about her style is that she is a trend setter! She isn't afraid to come up with her own thing and look good in it. She just stands out! here are some of her outfits, from a chilled campus look , to a more glamorous and chic look.

 

 

Love the boyfriend jeans! And I absolutely love the pop of colour with her pink purse.  

Simple

This is the look I usually go for when shopping. I could shop for days! So I go for something loose and very comfortable.

 

 

                                                                  

                                                                           Top and maxi skirt : Mr Price
                                                                                   Sling bag : Edgars

Loving Yourself

“She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. She lives on the reflections of herself in the eyes of others. She does not dare to be herself.”
 - Anais Nin

Sadly most of us can be just like that most times.....

Ever notice how sometimes you just loose who you are, you totally forget what makes who or what you are. You come across a certain group of people and you try and fit in,  and this happens with every one you're with. You become kinda like them. I don't know maybe I imagine things but Iv seen a lot of people do that, and I know I'm guilty too. The thing is, it usually works! People don't really judge you if you're like them. But why do we care so much about what other people think of us?

In my opinion I think it all boils down to just loving who you are- as simple as that. Love you and enjoy it , have fun with it , be care free!When you have that flame that heats your soul, it automatically lights and energises your spirit. I usually find that I'm more comfortable when wearing things that I love not what other people will think looks good on me. I'm more me in what others may think is weird or ugly. And my aim now is to just do that, do me and be care free.

Can you please just try and have like a "weird outfit day", I'm not saying you should wear your pyjamas in public but just 'Wear Whatever you Wanna Wear!  ..... whatever you're comfortable with!

                                                      

                                                      
                                               Photos: Anthea Peacock _embracingstyle                                                 

                                                      
                                                       
                                              Photos :Michelle Oberholzer - cinderandskylark
 


For more crazy, fun outfit ideas check out cinderandskylark.com and embracingstyle.co.za .

Personal Style of "Q"

Qaqamba Matha better known  as 'Q' is a 3rd year Howard College student (UKZN) who majors in Political Science. Q has a very fun , effortlessly cool fashion style. I really dig her outfits and her body allows her to wear almost anything.

Here are some of her pics....

                                                                        Rocking a polka dot cropped top.
                                                                     

 

Luuurve the yellow pointed-toe heels!

 

 

 

Thee pose.....

 

Try out her style by mixing different prints.....and have fun with it. But don't overdo it! When mixing prints you either end up looking really stylish or totally ridiculous. Try wearing a combination of larger and smaller prints. And try blending prints that have similar colours or colours that go well together. For more tips on mixing prints check out www.bellanaija.com.

Quote of the Day

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
― C.G. Jung

 

 

As a human being , one should be more appreciative of the existence granted to them. Our uniqueness coupled with our intellect should be the most celebrated and exalted of our possessions. The ability to question, reason and impose meaning on the world is a capacity bestowed on no other creature besides ourselves. We can savour each conscious moment, reserve our most precious memories every sensation that we have. These include the five majors of touch, sight, smell, taste and sound, in greater appreciation than all other creatures.

We have peered deeper into the universe, and with this new knowledge, gained a new sense of how infinitely small we are in this vast vacuum of space. We have also discovered that the law of attraction is not just a gravitational force but also a physical one as well.As people who possess spiritual energy we have the ability to attract who and what we want, given enough focus and determination. This has been proven as a law in the complex discipline of quantum physics.

It is imperative that one should remember these things when life gets too much, for we are celestial beings made of the same compounds which make up stars, and thus part of this universe more than we know. Think of these facts in a conscious process while meditating for just 15 minutes a day and notice a change in at least one month.

What I Wore

I'm totally in love with the military prints.Its definitely not new however I think its bigger and better this season. What I love the most about the military inspired look is that you can wear it casually and also give it a more sophisticated look. I think its glamorous and doesn't require too mush effort. Sometimes you do find that people try too hard to get that military look and end up looking disastrous. Just try keeping it simple and don't mix it with everything military....it becomes too much really, try mixing it with black or white.

Anyway, the first two looks were my inspiration ( from tumblr), so I decided to try it out. These are some of the looks you can try....

Shirt

                                                                          Pants

                                                                        Leggings

What I Wore

So i was inspired by this look from Elle magizines 'street chic'. It has a vintage feel to it and its an effortless look. It doesnt scream summer neither is it something to wear when its cold. I think this would be a perfect look for this season. 

So i decided to try a look with similar colours but with a different style.

 

And more.....

 

 

Normally I don't do brown because it clashes with my skin tone, but i love these shorts because they are a light dull-ish kinda brown so whenever you do brown and you're brown skin like me just make sure the brown is different from your skin tone....

 

 

 

 

Quote Of The Day

“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.”

― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free


So I was browsing through Pearl Modiades blog "The Black Pearl" and I ran across a post on bulling. People bully in all spheres of life and sometimes we aren't even aware of it. Whats worse is that we do it as well. What I learnt from the post though, is that PEOPLE JUDGE! You do the best you can to make people happy but at the end of the day they still judge you and find something wrong in whatever you're doing. What people fail to remember is that you cannot please everyone. So long as you're happy with your self that's all that matters.

After reading this I hope you change your mind set and try not to judge other people, I sure did.